Monday, May 30, 2011

Guess who likes you? - Keep calm and carry on


Oftentimes, I get scared that I'm really normal. Which to some sounds like an irrational fear, but that could be because you're really normal. A friend of mine told me that worrying that you're normal means just the opposite. So to me, a healthy dose of worry is just that: healthy.

It's doubtful you have enough time in your day to think about my life. It's okay, I'm not mad - I think about myself enough to last a person a lifetime. But really and truly, the lives of others are so much more fascinating to me.

I'm around me during all the boring parts of my life (so I'm well acquainted with them). However, through the magic that is Facebook, I only get the catch the glimpses of your life that you find interesting enough to share. But most of the time, I don't give two shits about a party you attend and take two photos of yourself then leave. More often than not, I am most interested in the people who are doing something unexpected.

People who pack up their lives and move to wherever in the world amaze me. People who say screw it to their engineering degrees who start all over to become writers motivate me. People who change from science majors to drama to pursue their real passion and not their parent-approved meal ticket inspire me. People who introspectively look inside and make hard decisions to what's really right instead of hiding behind what's easy push me to do the same.

I am so impressed by the people in my life. And not because you're a doctor or lawyer or have an attractive partner. I've always been more about words than pictures, I don't know why that is, so I tend to flip through photo albums less than I do on links that people post on Facebook. Recently I saw an editorial cartoon that spoke to how people turn to their Facebook news feeds as their predominant source of relevant information. The drawing consisted of Farmville posts and other such drabble. However, I'm happy to report that mine thankfully is mostly full of thoughtful links and decent music. I wholeheartedly turn to my minifeed because the things that are important to me, tend to be important to the people I associate with. It just makes sense.

Short story short, I am quite certain that I wrote this entry for a self-serving reason. I am hoping that perhaps in some way, that I also inspire you or push you to feel or think something beyond the everyday. To realize you may have an impact on people by just being who you are. And the focus of what I'm trying to say is that it is a good thing, whether or not you know that I click on your profile every now and then. And I think most of us can find some solace in that. Because Facebook and social networking can make us feel monstrously self-important, but it can also make you feel the most insignificant speck on the planet.

Don't worry though, I like you.